Why Eat, Pray, Love Is Important
You know the movie, Eat, Pray, Love based on the bestselling book of the same name by Elizabeth Gilbert, and starring Julia Roberts and Javier Bardem. This movie is already slated for great success. You’ve heard of it in the constant media run it has had, including being featured on Oprah to the rapt attention of millions of viewers. The television shopping network HSN ran a 72 hour infomercial over an entire weekend highlighting items from India, Italy and Bali, the countries that Elizabeth visited on her journey of self discovery. Women have been eating it up. The media is in love with it, but this is not the only reason for its pre-ordained, runaway success. What’s the big deal about somebody else’s journey?
What’s important about this movie is that Elizabeth’s journey to self represents everyone’s journey to self, and it is a journey we must all take, sooner or later. Mythology and the spiritual quest are all about the soul’s journey. The higher self calls to each of us to know ourselves, to know the Oneness, and to know that everything we seek is within us. All of the external ways that we try to fill ourselves up are ultimately empty. And, what’s more, each of us knows that on a very deep level. We all sense the nudging of spirit to go within, so when we see someone else’s journey, it gets our attention, and we plug in. Also consider the success of other movies like The Matrix and Inception among countless others. We recognize the call of the inner journey. My own journey led me on a solo trip to Greece back in 1992. It was a call that I absolutely could not resist, and I did receive my own great revelation, Trust Yourself.
A movie like Eat, Pray, Love is another cinematic opportunity for us to answer the call. But, remember, it is one we all have to take, so enjoy the movie. It’s quite a ride.
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Sometimes You Just Need To Talk To An “Older Sister”
Savvy: The Club for Fabulous Young Women Who Still Have Questions
With Darnise Martin, PhD, Author, Professor, Relationship Mentor, Workshop Leader
Email: drdarnise@drdarnisemartin.com
I know you. I once was you. Young, Ambitious, Fabulous, and Confused! I was as green as they come after college. I moved from Ohio to New York City on my own, floundered around, made mistakes, lost my job, ran around with men playing a game I didn’t understand, but I eventually found my way. And you will too.
You have so much going on, life has so many opportunities, and challenges, and it can all seem overwhelming. You have a lot of questions, and maybe no direction, or don’t even know what to ask yet. It’s all good.
Savvy is for women under 30 who could use advice from a savvy, experienced, “older sister” about money, men, career and confidence.
This is a special group of women who will meet via phone on a tele-workshop twice monthly to discuss all those things you need to know NOW. I know.
Here are just some of the things we’ll be talking about:
- How to Attract Your Own Mr. Right and other Relationship Questions
- Un-Confident? How to be Confident in Life, Love and Work
- How to Know if You’re Casting Your Pearls Before Swine in love and work
- What you MUST know about YOUR money: Credit, Savings, Spending, what the fine print really means to you.
- Un-Pretty? Loving the Skin You’re In
Are you ready for Savvy? Great! Then, The Savvy Program is ready for you. You know a good opportunity when you see one.
So, how do you join?
The program requires an investment of $19.97/month billed to your credit/debit card as long as you remain in the program. Savvy is an on-going program, so stay as long as you like. The other investment is your commitment to yourself to show up and be present. You’ll find this is critical to life in general, show up and participate!
Have Questions? Email me drdarnise@drdarnisemartin.com or call 323-472-6735.
After you enroll you will receive via email the call in number and the times to be present on the call. Bring your authentic, savvy self, and an open mind. Easy.
Be Savvy,
Dr. Darnise
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Lyfe Jennings on Relationship Statistics
I’m loving the new Lyfe Jennings song, “Statistics.” In addition to actually quoting statistics about numbers of single women, and numbers of men who are “unavailable” for various reasons, he really breaks down what keeps women single: giving yourself away and settling for less than you deserve. Ladies, I’ve been saying over and over, don’t throw your pearls before swine (swine meaning people who don’t have your best interest at heart). You’ll only end up frustrated, bitter and feeling discarded.
Need help with that? I help single women who are having trouble finding and keeping a great man to become the kind of woman who is open to love and easily attract the man of their dreams. Email me.
Meantime, let Lyfe Jennings school you:
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Sex on the First Date and Other Conundrums
The more I do this work of mentoring women on relationships the more I am puzzled by popular behavior. Take for example, sex. This word is fraught with so much baggage that it is a wonder any of us can have healthy sexual relationships, married or not. My thoughts here stem from conversations I’ve had with clients and friends about whether or not one should have sex on the first date, and whether it even matters in these contemporary times where “hooking up” is commonplace for some. While some women will say that they are down for a good time, no strings attached, what I’m seeing is the damage and heartbreak many women suffer when they actually do it. While sex on the first date has certainly been happening throughout time, it is now that we see the effects upon “liberated” women, who like it or not are still penalized by society as being promiscuous, cheap and still called sluts or even worse names I won’t write here and are damaged by them. Although women’s sexuality is highly commodified, and pursued, she still carries the brunt of societal sexual mores. She should allow herself to be desired and chased, but never caught without a ring on it.
But, back to the point at hand: Some women have taken on sexual behaviors more associated with men, and is it getting them what they want? I have to say no. A lot of these women still end up without the guy, with a bad reputation, hardened broken hearts, and wondering what happened. Even though I risk putting all women in the same boat here, forgive my essentializing for the moment, but women are not men. Women and men think and feel differently; estrogen and testosterone actually mean something, and, of course, we are socialized differently. So, sisters, if you are going to play a man’s game, enter it with your eyes open, hearts in neutral, and go along for the ride. Just PLEASE, don’t expect that man to become your husband or even call you in the morning. Does it happen? Yes. But usually? Not so much. Why? He still thinks of you as his “hook up” or worse. Sure he desired you, but now, game over.
To the men: This can be a dangerous, messy game. You know that women get their emotions involved, even when they say they won’t. When you think she starts “acting crazy,” consider the bigger picture. Women are not men, and will not react the same way as you.
So, what’s the verdict? Is sex on the first date a good idea? You tell me.
And what happens when you add religion into this conversation? You’ve gotta hear this, click here
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Dr. Darnise’s Monthly Empowerment Group
Greetings all, Here’s an opportunity you won’t want to miss!
This is your opportunity to receive help from me personally in this small group program. Many of you know that I am dedicated to helping my clients achieve whole life abundance, so whether you have a pain or disconnect in your life around relationships, career, money or spirituality, the answers lie within you. You can have love and romance, financial prosperity, the career you want, the family relationships you want, and anything else. The truth is your success starts within you. Oftentimes we are standing in our own way, hanging onto old baggage, too afraid to make a change or let someone in. And even more, we’re not aware that we are blocking our own blessings. We need help to see this, otherwise life just seems frustrating, hard and lonely. Well ladies, believe me, change happens when you begin to make changes, not before. Step up, step forward for your own sake. No one can do it for you, but I’m here to help you get clear, get focused and get moving.
How much longer are you going to wait for your life to be what you want it to be? Be encouraged that you have the power to recreate yourself and be assured that I am here with you as a mentor pulling for you, challenging and empowering you to be and do who you most want to be and do.
And, I’ll offer you this other wisdom nugget, when things seem difficult and obstacles arise (and they will), this just means that you are in a growth spurt. Consider the obstacles you are facing in your life right now as indications that you are on the verge of the change you want. This little nugget is not often discussed, but it is key to actually getting through to your goals and dreams. We’ll uncover how this is working in your life. You have to see it and know it in order to change it and work it to your advantage.
So, here’s your personal invitation about this program to the Monthly Empowerment Group. Starting in July, we’ll have a monthly 90 minute session where I offer some teachings and then open the call to hear your issues, needs and concerns. Then I’ll do laser, on the spot treatment sessions to help you right where you are in your life. We’ll rotate so everyone gets a chance to share and get support from the group. I’ll help you uncover your own #1 block to what you want most.
And, to make this an even easier decision for you to join in I want to remove the obstacle of affordability as best I can. The regular program price is only $47/month, a huge price break from my regular rate. Now, that’s a deal and a great investment in yourself you can’t ignore. And, for a limited time, I’m offering an even better deal. Sign up now for the monthly rate of $37. Yes, each month will be $37 when you sign up right up. Limited time offer, so hurry!
One more thing, if you already know that you would prefer to work with me one on one, you can click here to sign up, http://www.drdarnise.com/loveattraction/enroll. Or, if you want to request a follow up call from me to answer your questions about individual sessions, email or call me 323-472-6735.
Looking forward to hearing from you
Be Blessed
P.S. What you seek is seeking you too.
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